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芈月是谁一见钟情,好事儿多磨-跟文森特学英语

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一见钟情尖叫皇后 ,好事儿多磨-跟文森特学英语夕阳之恋

Jeremy Marsh是一个生活在美国纽约的专栏作家,因一次外出采风认识了一个小镇图书管理员Lexie。两人一见钟情,几个礼拜后,就订婚了。当Jeremy要从大都市纽约搬到Lexie的小镇Boone Creek的时候,遭到了朋友和家人的反对和不理解。
正当两人坠入爱河,憧憬美好未来生活的时候,争吵,痛苦,压力也随之而来。Jeremy感受到巨大的压力,无法专心创作,脾气越来越不好。Lexie也开始对Jeremy越来越不满。两人的关系非常紧张。
这本书叫做「At First Sight」,中文可以叫“一见钟情”,故事情节起起伏伏,但总的来说还是相当的温暖。讲述了两个人在婚姻中常遇到的一些问题,比如“谁为谁付出的多”,“谁为了婚姻牺牲的更多”等等。当然,在很多的小插曲之后,两人顺利结婚,家庭和睦。但是结局似乎还是有些出人意料,有兴趣的同学可以去看看。
今天我其实是想跟大家分享一下Jeremy的爸爸还有Lexie的奶奶Doris是如何用长辈的身份来给予他们建议和帮助的。
在一次剧烈的争吵之后,Jeremy的和爸爸聊起了这事儿熊岳温泉,而爸爸当时是这么说的:
The one thing you've got to remember is to see the big picture. When things got tough, remind yourself why you fell in love with her in the first place. She's a special woman, and you were lucky to find her, just as she was lucky to find you. She's got a heart of gold, and you can't fake something like that.
老爸说:你看事情要要看长远一点,以大局为重 (to see the big picture). 不顺心的时候呢,你就想想你当初为什么会爱上她(why you fell in love with her in the first place)。她是个很特别的女人,你小子很幸运茶树菇炖鸡,当然,她能找到你也很幸运。她有一颗金子般的心姫様限定 ?斑鸠打笼 ?,这是装不出来的。
Well,then I'd say it takes two to tango. My guess is that both of you are right and both of you are wrong. That's the way most arguments go, anyway. People are who they are and no one is perfect, but marriage is about becoming a team. You're going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked up the right person and you both love each other, you'll always figure out a way to get through it.
老爸又说:一个巴掌怕不响呀。你们各自都有对有错,因为所有的争执都是这样。人嘛,本性难移,每个人都不完美。但是婚姻呢,就是两个不完美的人组成一个团队,即使不会一帆风顺,也要相偎相依,并共度余生。婚姻的美妙之处就在于,一旦选对了人,并彼此深爱,就一定能攻克任何难关赣源信息网 。
中国好像有句话叫做:劝和不劝分。这一点在老爸身上体现的非常好。老爸在给出建议的时候玛德琳·奇玛,没有指责任何一方,而是客观的分析,善意的提醒,时不时给点鸡汤。当然,还不忘给自己的儿媳妇儿说说好话。这是非常智慧的表现呀。

我们来看看Lexie的奶奶Doris是如何给Doris建议的,Doris说:
I know you, Lexie. You can be very headstrong, but you're not a victim. And neither is Jeremy. What's going on with you two, all this stress you're both under... that's called life. And life has a tendency to throw curveballs when you least expect them. Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that's the thing - you're a couple, and couples can't function without trust. You have to trust him, and he's got to trust you.
奶奶说:我很了解你呀Lexie,你有时能真的是很倔(headstrong),但是你绝对不是受害者,Jeremy也不是。你们所经历这些压力,痛苦,就叫做“生活”。生活时常会在你不经意的时候,给出点幺蛾子。每一对夫妻/情侣都会经历起起伏伏,都会争吵,这再正常不过啦。但是,如果夫妻间没有了信任,那肯定是不行的芈月是谁 大气层消失 。所以,你一定要给他信任,他也要信任你。
Like I said猎物者 , you're in this together. Men have certain needs, women have different needs; that's the way it was hundreds of years ago, and that's that way it's going to be hundreds of years from now. If you both realize that, and you both work on meeting each other's needs, you'll have a good marriage. And part of that, for both of you, is trust. In the end, it's that simple.
奶奶又说:你们必须共同经历和面对。男人有男人的需要,女人有女人的需要,男女的需要是不同的,古往今来都是这个理儿。如果你们能够意识到这一点,并努力满足对方的需要,那么你们的婚姻就会很圆满。当然,这其中最重要的就是“信任”,就这么简单。
My hope is that you remember this when you're married. If you think it's tough now, wait until then. Just when you think it can't get any worse, it can. And just when you think it can't get any better, it will. But as long as you remember that he loves you and you love him - and both of you remember to act that way - you'll be just fine.
奶奶又又说:当你结婚了,我希望你能记得我跟你说的这些。如果你现在觉得很难,那就等到那个时候再回过来看。有时候,当你在想,这事儿还能不能在糟糕点,它真久变得更糟糕了。而当你在想,这事儿可能不会变好的时候,它总是会变好。你们只要记住:你们是深深地爱着对方的冷宫代嫁妃 。那一切都会好起来。
奶奶可以说也是相当有智慧的了。跟Jeremy的爸爸一样,她并没有指责或者跟着自己的孙女一起骂街,而是耐心地跟她解释男女之间的区别,玖竜 婚姻到底是怎么一回事儿,要信任,要爱!这一个爸爸,一个奶奶,简直是某些公公婆婆的榜样嘛!
书中有一处是奶奶跟Doris讲男人和女人不同需求的,我拍了张图片放在这里,大家自己看看。有什么想法,都可以在后面留言告诉我们。

(节选自 At First Sight)

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